There’s a question that has been on mind for quite a while. The question is:
What is the most empowering way to work with clients?
After a session with me, I want you to leave better equipped to be an agent of your own healing. I don’t want you leave just “being healed”–I want you to leave with ways to heal yourself.
For the past 16 years, the majority of my work has taken the form of in-person Ortho-Bionomy (bodywork, healing work) sessions. While I’ve also offered sessions by Skype and workshops, rituals, and classes, the bulk of my work has been in-person, one-on-one. And, I’ve loved it.
I thrive in one-on-one sessions where we have the opportunity to go really deep together. I love being with my clients as they walk through pain, anxiety, and fear. I love seeing the transformation that occurs in their physical bodies and in their lives as a result of our work together.
However, I’ve noticed there can be a dynamic that is very hard to shake.
While the purpose of Ortho-Bionomy is to empower the client to notice what is happening in their bodies and to choose comfort and wholeness, the fact that they are on a massage table and I am standing beside the table sets the stage for me to be “the healer” and for them to be “healed by me”.
In short, clients unconsciously give their power to me.
This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. This dynamic shows up in all healing professions like massage, bodywork, counseling, life coaching, you-name-it. Good work can happen in this format, and clients can walk away feeling much better and having experienced shifts and healing.
I believe that much deeper levels of healing are possible.
These deeper levels of healing come when the client is truly empowered in their own ability to meet *themselves* – whether in the presence of another (healer) or in their own lives in general.
This is the heart of what my work is about –
- meeting each person where they are,
- teaching skills that help them deepen into a healing relationship with themselves, and
- holding a safe, high integrity space that allows for whatever stands in the way of full healing (fear, grief, anxiety…) to come forward and to be met by both of us, together.
This process unfolds naturally over Skype as the power differential is less obvious.
When I work with clients over Skype, they automatically show up expecting to be fully engaged in the process. There is much less of the ‘I’m here; now heal me’ dynamic.
The more you show up to fully engage with me in a session, the more potential there is for true healing and transformation to occur. Yes, I am still in the role of healer but there is more of an expectation that I will be teaching you skills that you will take into your daily life. There is more of an (again, mostly unconscious) expectation that you will be a vital part of the healing process, that you also have a role to play.
It is clear to me that sessions over Skype hold the most potential for the healing work I find to be the most effective and empowering.
Are Skype sessions right for you?
Here are some questions to help you in your discernment process.
What am I really seeking? Healing and transformation? Relaxation, stress-relief, to zone out? To learn more about myself? All of these (and more) are valid reasons for seeking help. Some healers can even do all in the same session. Knowing what you are truly desiring, however, can assist you in choosing the best healer for your current situation.
Is it important to me to learn new skills that I can use to improve my day-to-day life? Again, both yes and no are valid answers!
How much do I want to engage in the session? Am I looking for someone to ‘heal’ me or do I want to be an active participant in the process myself?
My healing sessions by Skype –
My sessions are perfect for people who are seeking deep healing, who want to learn new skills, and who are ready to transform the painful, stuck places within themselves.
- are working with physical pain,
- are in the middle of a major transition,
- have a long-standing issue that you are ready to do deep work with, or
- are just ready to step into a new level of your own resilience and power,
I am here to be your partner in your healing journey. Whatever your story, you are not alone; healing and transformation await.