Why self-regulation isn’t enough is a topic that has been rumbling about in the back of my mind for some time now. This recent essay from Tad Hargrave has brought it forward and spurred me into writing about it. According to Arlin Cuncic, “emotional self-regulation refers to the ability to manage disruptive emotions and impulses […]
Voice And Visibility
A couple of months ago I attended a writing circle facilitated by friend and colleague Laura Gates-Lupton. The prompt for our time together was ‘lost and found’ which resulted in a deep inquiry for me around Voice and Visibility. As I’m in the process of sharing my voice in a much bigger way through my […]
7 Approaches That Work To Dismantle Fundamentalism
As you may recall, I think of fundamentalism as a pattern of beliefs, sensations in the body, and behaviors that are characterized by a stark black/white view of the world, judgment (of self/others), and rigidity. Further, fundamentalism is a pattern at play everywhere in the world around us; it isn’t limited to religion/s. Today, I’m […]
The Confusion Of ‘What We’re Told’ versus ‘What We Feel’
Last week I wrote that even when our bodies/nervous systems are being activated into fight, flight, freeze or fawn AS IF they are under threat (when our lives aren’t actually in danger), our bodies can be trusted. Further, I wrote that ‘Intensity does not always indicate Truth‘ and that it is important to learn to: discern […]
We Can Trust Our Bodies
Our bodies are to be trusted. We can trust what we feel in our bodies. While we can trust our bodies, it is also true that unresolved trauma (both our own and our ancestors’) lives in our bodies and nervous systems. This means that not everything we feel in our bodies is rooted in and […]