Last week, I had a conversation with a close friend that made quite an impression on me.
We were talking about my business and she said something about how it seems to her that I’ve never fully committed to my business, at least not in the same way that she has seen me commit to my marriage and various other non-business activities.
I could feel the truth of that and yet, I had no idea what it meant, or what I would do differently if I were to fully commit.
She pointed me to an article on one of my favorite marketing blogs and suddenly I got it.
The internal (more feminine) piece of commitment.
Yes, I was fully committed in my heart to my business. Yes, my intentions (for it to thrive; to serve humankind; to benefit the world and my family) were all in place. And yes, I was even continuing with my daily practice of self-care, meeting fears as they arose, and interacting mindfully with whatever was happening in my internal world in relation to my business.
The external (more masculine) piece of commitment.
BUT (and this is a very large but) I had never fully committed to ‘serious, very active’ ________ that showed up in the external world – like consistent blogging, social media stuff, podcasting, whatever form that might take for me.
For me, the internal piece is easy. I love being at my altar, I love meditating, journaling, exploring the depths of my psyche, interacting with my shadow. That stuff is fun!
The external piece requires much more effort for me and tends to evoke much more anxiety as well.
However, at some point, if I truly am committed to my business and to the message I carry for the world, I have to step more into the external piece of commitment than I have in the past. I have to meet that anxiety and fear AS I’m consistently engaging in serious, very active external action.
Thanks to the combination of the discussion with my friend and the article above, this is exactly what I am now committing to doing.
What does commitment mean to you?
Take a moment and think about something that you fully committed to (a project, relationship…). How did that feel? What did you do to stay engaged? And, even more specifically, what were the concrete actions you took to demonstrate your commitment?